First Time Home Buyers: Tips to Buying Your First Home that will Reduce Stress and Buyer's Remorse

The purchase of a first home is likely to be the biggestfirst mortgage to the limit (25 years plus). This will
one-time purchase in your life. There is a huge shiftreduce the impact to your monthly cash-flow
from living with family or renting, to owning a home. It(mortgage + interest payments). Don't concern
can be an overwhelming experience and at times youyourself with paying down this FIRST mortgage in 5, 10
may feel that you are barely keeping in step with theor 15 years. You expect to build equity in your first
process. We are now at a point in our lives where ourhome to apply to your next home purchase(s).
children are buying their first homes and we see theRemember item "2" - this is just your first home.
worry and signs of stress that make this FIRST BIG5. Loans and Mortgages are a Fact of Life - settle into
PURCHASE such a momentous event for them. Thethe idea that you will likely have a mortgage and some
learning gained from buying a home and selling a houseform of loans for most of your working life. Unless you
six (6) times - four different cities and two differentcome from "material substance", i.e. money, or have
provinces - has given us experiences that we sharewon the lottery, you will have large debt for most of
here with our children. The tips we can give you whenyour life. Accept that you are likely not to be in a
going through the mind-game process of buying aposition to eliminate your mortgage until you have
home are insightful and are especially for people justworked 20-25-30 years.
like our children - first time home buyers.6. Shop around for your mortgage - mortgage hunting
Every step along the way to becoming a propertycan be an exciting thing. Use it as a learning
owner brings a new rush of questions.experience. Bankers, Mortgage brokers and Real
This first-time home-buying torrent of questions can, atEstate agents all want to give you the money! Talk to
times, feel like you are fighting river rapids in a kayak.other first time home owners. Compare interest rates,
Just like novice kayaker, it is fear of the unknown interms of mortgage and payout penalties. It's a
home-buying that creates the stress.numbers game - have fun with this financial aspect of
Can we afford this house?home ownership by familiarizing yourself with financial
Did we pay too much for this property?terminology and ask those 'mortgage financiers' to
Will we be able to make the monthly payments?break it down into layman's terms so you can
How will we pay property taxes and still have moneyunderstand it.
for any maintenance and renovation costs?7. Separate an 'emotional' buy from a 'good' buy - this
Will we have a mortgage forever?ONE THING will be your biggest hurdle, causing
Notice most questions and fears are centered aroundadditional stress between a couple in their hunt for the
finances. Not surprising then that this big purchasefirst home. Real estate agents may try to leverage
would cause you stress. Finances or Money is the(manipulate) this couple tension to their advantage - like
number ONE cause of stress in our lives.getting you to buy beyond your means or buy NOW
Our experiences can be the information that can helpbecause other offers are on the table. As difficult as it
you steer the ship named 'Home Equity'. Equity - themay become, agree as a couple that if things are not
difference between the market value of a propertyright for you as a couple that you are willing to walk
and the claims (loans + mortgages) held against it.away from any house deal on the table. Be vigilant in
Here are a TEN pointers that helped us and can helpreaffirming this point to each other.
you through the psychological aspects of buying your8. Create a "Must Have / Would Like" list of features -
first house (you might even experience an adrenalinaccept compromise as an element of home buying -
rush):unless your first home is custom built, accept that you
1. Accept that buyer's remorse will happen and it couldwill need to compromise on some of the features you
overcome you early in the process of purchasing yourhave on your list of features. Remember item "2" - this
first home. Buyer's remorse is a natural feeling whereis just your first home. Getting all the house features
we doubt ourselves and question our purchasingyou want requires a longer term view - a goal on your
actions. It may last for months after you buy. Thesenext home.
are natural feelings to have; a home is a large9. Scope out any neighborhood in which you want to
purchase with significant impact on your lifestyle.own a home - just like test driving an automobile
Remorse will give way to a contentment as you makebefore you buy it, walk around your potential
this house your home. Buyers remorse usually lessensneighborhood. Check out schools, shopping and city hall
as you become more experienced in buying and selling(use the web) for zoning (building projects), crime levels
houses.and types, community involvement. Talk to people who
2. Buy a House, Sell a Home. Buy to resell. Buy withlive and work in the area you are considering a home
resale in mind. Remember that this is your FIRSTpurchase.
house purchase, and not likely to be your last. Within10. Accept the fact that your current social lifestyle
3-10 years of buying a house you are likely to sell andmay shift a bit - entertain at home instead of going out
buy a second, third, or fourth house. Perhaps you willon the town; mowing the lawn and garden
buy more than that number. No matter the number ofmaintenance might replace some of your gym activity;
houses you buy, do so with the view that you willinterior decorating and carpentry become new hobbies
re-sell, make a profit, buy UP (larger home) and/orto replace Nintendo and X-Box.
reduce your mortgage on subsequent house11. Breathe - Breathing is good. Enjoy the rigors and
purchases.rewards of home ownership. Learn and continue to
3. Pay the minimum Down Payment on your firsteducate yourself on home ownership.
house - unless you are paying 25% or more againstFirst time home ownership can be a highly stressful
the total price of the house (this may provide you withsituation. But buying your first home can still be a
some relief on the mortgage rate), THEN pay thewonderful experience. Home buying and home
minimum. Use your cash for legal fees and transferownership should complement your life and relationship
taxes PLUS for household improvements (like painting),with your spouse and family. You may want to do it
maintenance and furniture/appliances/tools purchases.more than once. Buy a House - Sell a Home. Make
Remember point number "2" - this is your first home.your house the home that others will want to buy. Be
4. Don't make yourself 'house poor' - Amortize yourthe Consumer, Not the Consumed.